
As a father, I’m often conscious of the changes that have taken place during my lifetime in terms of technology, schooling and working life. In my own boyhood I spent a good deal of time with my Mum and Dad, and we had constant interaction through games, sport, reading, mealtimes, holidays etc. TV was a very small part of our lives, and computers, computer games, the Xbox, Wii, Smart-phones, Nintendos DS, Gameboys etc did not exist.
I’ve observed and commented on such changes many times, noticing in particular the obsession/addiction that my 14-year old son Joseph had with screen games etc. Also his lack of engagement with the outside world at times, and a lack of ability to concentrate on one thing at a time.
In May 2011, having thought long and hard about the need for more time together, I decided to take him on a real ‘boy’s own adventure’ to Slovakia; trekking and bear watching in the Tatra Mountains.
This holiday later became the first ‘Father and Son’ adventure developed by my company, Families Worldwide. These trips are being developed to help working parents bridge the gap with their children, to help overcome missing out on quality time together as they grow up.
In particular, I’d noticed that fathers feel the need to spend some quality time with their children when they’re in their teens.
“Most rights of passage have now disappeared from western culture.”
Sociologists and anthropologists have noticed that today, unlike in early civilisations and tribal cultures, most rights of passage, in which father and son or mother and daughter come together in some kind of initiation, have now disappeared from western culture.
These experiences, or ‘journeys’, help youngsters into adulthood and teach them to face and resolve wounds from the past, as well as inspiring, equipping and empowering them to lead successful lives as adults.
“You may get to see, in a new light, the amazing adult that your child is growing up to be.”
We highly recommend a ‘father and son’ or ‘mother and daughter’ holiday – you’ll be glad to get them away from the TV screen and the computer, and it’s likely that you’ll both return with a new-found respect and admiration of each other, thanks to the bonds that are inevitably formed from shared experiences. You may get to see, in a new light, the amazing adult that your child is growing up to be.
Mark Wright
Managing Director of Families Worldwide.